After a while you don't know what belongs to who. There are times when I try to throw out my own things, and mum will get angry because she thinks it's hers. There are times when I try to throw out my own things, and mum will get angry because she thinks it's hers. Then there are times when I ask why we can't throw something away, and she'll shout and say those are things that I brought in," Anne says. On the rare occasion anyone dared to ask about the junk, Anne's mum would sometimes accuse Anne of being the hoarder: "She would say all the things are mine, and that I can't stop buying things and waste money; that's why the house is so crammed."
Because it's awkward to bring it up, no one wants to help intervene," Anne says, "When we had visitors on the new year many had to stand, or even hang around in the corridor; but they would still be polite and pretend nothing's wrong. But these are family, you would expect them to do something."
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It affected my own head. There as one time I was insisting that a bag of shoes wasn't mine and we should throw it out; and then later I realised that, oh my God, mum was right it WAS my shoes in the bag. She had 30 or 40 plastic bags full of them, but that one bag was actually mine. I just get so messed up."